I typed in ‘Lying” into my phone dictionary and the definition I got from this word is:
“The deliberate act of deviating from the truth”
It’s as simple as that however, in reality ‘deviating from the truth’ has become a routine for us human beings and almost a comfort blanket for majority of us…right?
I’ve blatantly lied plenty of times. Whether, it being a simple white lie or not. We need to think before we lie. Even if you know lying at that point will bring no harm. Wrong, that is the starting point and then you will continuously train yourself to create bigger lies and eventually become an expert at it, pretty soon it will all seem natural to you and become a part of your personality.
I’ve lied to my best friend back in High School telling her that I was some sort of spy for the government and trust me it sounds ridiculous now and your thinking ‘your mates pretty stupid then’ but I made it out like my mum was involved and that my life was crap because of this job that I was doing for the ‘government’. When I think about it now it’s like it makes me cringe and I just think what she must think of me. I’ve also lied to my parents about having a boyfriend we didn’t do the typical boyfriend-girlfriend thing i.e. kissing or holding hands but we were interested in each other and spoke to each other..but still guys, it was still lying to my parents and they were against the idea and eventually I stopped it because It felt like betrayal.
Trust me when you constantly lie, it becomes so good that eventually you start believing in them too. No matter how bad a situation is, tell the truth, it is way better than telling a lie because over time that ‘small’ lie can make that situation 100 times worse.
Why I think people lie (from my experiences and what I have seen):
- The want to deliberately betray you
- Scared of facing the truth
- Just scared how the situation will turn out
- Some people may not be happy with themselves/others
I can sit here and tell you so many reasons but at the end of the day, the person that has lied will know why they lied in the first place.
I wanted to talk about this topic because yesterday when I had asked my sister a question she looked me in the eye and lied to me straight away. It just fascinates me to see how easily she had done that and then it dawned to me that I’ve done it so many times too with so many people, so then why am I so bothered about it when it’s happening to me? If I don’t like it then that means other people must have felt like that to especially when they know that you are lying to them.
A way to prevent this is starting with yourself and eventually you shall influence those around you to speak the truth. A lie isn’t just a sin but it is also an ugly personality.
Some things to take away from this message:
- Lying is the ugly version of you
- Stop it before it is too late
- It doesn’t do any thing apart from masking the truth
- Telling the truth will influence others
- Just be YOU without the lies
Challenge yourself and see if you can stay away from lying just for one day and then make it a habit. It’s like a cleanse for the mind, heart, body and soul because lying stains those things and eventually, it becomes permanent and a need. And trust me this will not make you a happy person.
Lots of Love
D.E
p.s. The quote in the title is actually made up by me!!! 😉
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