You feel as though everything in life is going so fast and have no time to think about anything just the same daily routine you follow.

That is how am feeling right now, as though the days are just like a book where the pages are being flipped but when I actually sit and think, there is nothing I want to do.

As a child my imagination and ambition used to be so wide, anything was possible and now, as a young adult it has definitely narrowed down. I guess the downside of becoming an adult is that your imagination and ambition has to match reality sometimes right?

I do not want to come across as though I am depressed or spreading negativity, no. 

It’s just at times it is good to state reality and understand where you are in life and how you are feeling.

If you have an idea for something to do in your life then you should always go for it and never think twice, I think when a person thinks so much about something, they start to over-think and that leads to so much other unnecessary crap. I have experienced that too. Seriously, my aunt is the worst when it comes this topic and the annoying thing is she’s so cautious about everything in life, yes at times that is good.. but I don’t think she has ever lived outside the box (whatever the box is).

Last year, I decided that I don’t want to be in my 30s/40s and look back to regret that I haven’t lived ‘outside the box’ you know, I wanna be able to look back and laugh at memories, like I do when I look back at my high school times (my eyebrows were crazy)..

Nothing in this world is limitless…I think we have seen proof of that! Come on we defy gravity by travelling in the air to another country, people have travelled to the MOON. Then what is stopping us?

So if you have an idea. THEN GO FOR IT. No one can stop you apart from yourself! 

Take control and get to the place in life you want to enjoy and be in.

Remember that it is never too late to do anything, there is always something to do!

You just gotta believe.

D.E

Forgiving…”Forgive and Forget”

Has anything ever happened to you, family or someone close to you where you thought “there is no way in this life, I will be forgiving them” ??

Unfortunately, I have and so have my family. It’s like the person you would least expect to betray you, ends up hurting you the most. I guess having such high thoughts about someone it is bound to lead to that at some point.

Definition of ‘forgiving’ on my phones dictionary is:

• Providing absolution 
• Inclined or able to forgive show mercy

Forgiving someone is not just about forgetting what has happened its about accepting the consequences and releasing a burden off of yourself and the person that is asking for forgiveness.

You let go of the negative things from that situation that has been weighing your soul down, it helps you to move on and help you grow wiser and knowledgable.

Forgiving someone is not a weakness in fact, it is the opposite because you are showing that negativity is not affecting you.

‘Forgive and Forget’ a saying that I have tried to use in my situation. At times it is more easier to forget than to forgive *chuckling* however, I think everyone can agree that combining both is a much better outcome.

Do not think about making the other person beg for your forgiveness, no in fact, do not let them ask you either, just forgive them without saying it, because if they are not sorry straight away then they will be one day and by that time you have already let go of it, see it is helpful, to the mind, body and soul.

As I have said before in my previous post that Karma will be doing the work for you because ‘What goes around comes back around’. If you are a believer in God then remember you are not forgotten. If we expect forgiveness from God then why cannot we do the same to others?

Things to take away from this message:

• Forgive and Forget
• Forgiving does not make you weak or vulnerable 
• Forgiving shows a great deal of strength 
• Just try and let it go

I hope this helps someone out there.

Remember… always think positive

Wake up with a smile

D.E

Anger – “We Define It By The Way We Portray It” – D.E

Anger cannot be defined in the dictionary because it’s an emotion and also, an act that is portrayed differently by everyone. SO, that means we define it by the way we portray our anger. Everyone has that one breaking point where they will see red. 

Definition of the word anger: Strong Emotion

‘Anger’ can be words or an action right?

 

In my opinion the worst kind of way to show anger is through words…It might not physically hurt you but once the words are uttered out loud, it can’t be taken back or in some cases it can’t be healed.

You’ll always know that it was said.

Never forgotten. . .

 

Some people don’t seem to have/show anger and others-it takes less than a second to set them off. It’s one of those emotion where you can’t stop yourself sometimes.

 

I’ve always had a problem with this emotion.

Outside, I’m very calm and collected, approachable person, and I am never angry nor can anyone push me to see red. Yet, when I am home I can easily become angry at anything and at anyone and the person that has always sort of had to deal with this teen drama is my mother. The amount of times I’ve hurt her with words is unbelievable, I am telling you this because I know I am wrong and there are people who can relate with me and know what I am talking about. I’ve made her cry with saying harsh  words and immediately afterwards I’d regret it so much, don’t worry am not a horrible person, just human. Still it does not justify my actions. I have ended up making up with her and making her smile! But it still doesn’t excuse the fact that I made her cry in the first place.

 

You shouldn’t ever intentionally make someone upset by your words regardless of how you’re feeling, even if the person is doing it to you, learn to ignore and just let it go! If you suppress your anger then you might let it out towards the wrong person and end up doing something that was completely unintentional!

 

Over the years I’ve tried to control my tongue and seriously when you are angry the best thing to do is NOT to speak at all…I take a small breather and calm myself before I speak or do anything if I am angry..honestly, helps a lot and other times not so much.

 

The thing is that we are human beings with emotions and EVERYONE comes with anger, it is natural, but, we have the will to control that emotion and it is up to us how we control it. 

You don’t want to end up regretting your words or your actions because, as I have said before it may be hard to heal or forget. 

Things to take away from this message:

• Anger is something we can control 
• Calm yourself before you speak or act 
• Words can’t be taken back or be forgotten
• Just smile when you’re angry
• learn to let go of the anger 

I hope this helps you and thank you for reading!

Lots of Love

D.E.

Jealousy – “Disease Of The Mind And Heart”

The word ‘jealousy’ is a big topic to cover because this is an emotion that everyone shares and portray the same way or differently.

Definition of jealousy on my phone is: A feeling of jealous envy especially of a rival 

 

The word ‘jealousy’ can mean so many things to so many people because its a personal emotion i.e. envy, anger, resentment, inadequacy, helplessness and disgust. Everyone, around the world has at least related to one of these words right???

 

When a person is jealous it can turn nasty and lead to so many things: back biting, hating, trying to being the other person down.. see so much negativity towards another human being…Why???

It’s normal for human beings to feel jealous at times, it’s what we do with those emotion which is important. Let me explain… When someone is feeling jealous they think all these negative things and eventually it causes them to act in a certain way which can be hurtful to themselves and others. As a young women I’ve felt jealous ALL the time! Especially coming from a big family full of girls. Only recently I’ve learnt to control myself…I remember if my older sister used to get a compliment of someone saying that she’s very pretty or she received a gift from the family it used to trigger something inside of me..I couldn’t stand it that she got the attention and I used to get really jealous and sort of ignore her or try and do something about it. Yes it sounds so petty but it is true and I feel ashamed when I think about some of the things that I used to do. But we can only learn from our mistakes and thoughts and thats how we can move forward into becoming a better person. It is never too late to change yourself for the better…I’m still finding myself so that means there is so many mistakes for me to commit in the future..good luck to me(!)

When I feel jealous I shake my head mentally and try to think positive so I try not feeling negative about a situation or a person. It can lead to hate if we aren’t careful, and the word ‘hate’ is a powerful word…

 

I can’t really expand on this topic because I feel as though I can go on and give you so many examples and tell you not to feel jealous. But at the end of the day remember we’re all human beings and it is normal for a person to be jealous, but my opinion is that we should just use that jealousy to motivate ourselves to do better and be better. Not to bring others down and be spiteful. It takes you no where in life and it makes you a bitter person in the end.

 

Things to take away from this little message:

• Jealousy is an emotion we cannot stop having, we have to learn to control it
• If you are feeling jealous, try thinking positive about it
• Never take act upon your jealousy

 

Make the most of your life and always smile!! Be happy for yourself and others, it is so true that “if you aren’t happy with yourself then how can you be happy for another?”

Lots of Love

D.E.